I thought I would talk deciding to get my tubes ties (tubal ligation) at such a young age. I actually wanted to have them done at 19 but since Bradley was born 10 weeks early my Dr. made me wait until he came home from the hospital. When Bradley finally came home (3 months later) I visited the Dr. and we talked about birth control. I still wanted to get my tubes tied but the Dr. suggested that I “sleep” on it and I think about it more. I went on Mirena (IUD) for 5 years and at the end of the 5 years I still wanted to get my tubes tied.
I don’t want any more kids, actually me and my husband both don’t want any more kids. I have a hard time with pregnancy, it’s not that I can’t get pregnant it’s that I can’t stay pregnant long enough for the baby to cook! Benjamin was born 5 weeks early and Bradley was born 10 weeks early, both pregnancies I had issues with preterm labors starting at 25 weeks and cervix issues starting at 20 weeks. I didn’t want to put my life or another baby’s life in danger if I ever got pregnant again; I have 2 kids to think about as well. If I got pregnant again it would take a year away from my boys since I’m 100% sure that I would be put on bed rest right away, it would take focus away from them if the baby does come early since I would be at the hospital daily trying to get the baby healthy enough to come home. Bradley was a miracle baby and we are blessed that he survived being born 10 weeks early and that there is no serious on going issues with him now but I (or the Dr.’s) can’t guarantee that if another baby went through that we would have the same result.
When it was time for my IUD to expire I went to my Dr. to tell him I was ready to make it permanent and was ready to schedule the surgery. Of course he explained to me that it was permanent and I was ready! I am glad that I did this I did it for me, my family and our future.
Thank you for reading my story.
Amanda says
I had crazy pregnancies too! Tubal litigation wasn’t an option for me so my husband is taking one for the team next month. It’s crazy what he had to go through to actually get the surgery since he’s “so young” and “anything could happen”. I get that people have regrets sometimes but I really wish that doctors would just trust our judgement about this sort of thing.
Kelly says
You need to do what’s right for your body and not someone elses. Thank you for sharing.
Something like this is very personal, and it’s clear you made the decision that was best for you and your family. That’s all anyone can do! Congratulations on your beautiful family! 🙂
I just had my tubes tied this year. I was 33 when I had my daughter (now 34) She was my 4th. I think each person know when it’s time. I didn’t feel like my family was complete until after my 4th child. I don’t have any regrets. I have a friend who had her tubes tied after she had her son and he’s an only child. What scares me is that While I was pregnant with my 4th, knowing I was going to have my tubes tied after she was born there was at least 3 people that told me about how having their tubes tied failed. One girl was 34 weeks pregnant when I talked to her. There were others involved in the conversation. She said it was her last and it was her fourth. Someone suggested about getting tubes tied and she said “I did, after my 3rd one” her tubaligation failed. I’ve heard other stories. It’s not that I wouldn’t want another child. I’d love whatever children I have or might have but it’s the financial part that worries me. For now we’re fine but I worry about college, driving, weddings, oh it just makes my head spin